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My Sydderoo is the most dog-like cat and is incredibly patient trying to tell her dog siblings and I what she wants. When I adopted her, I was not an expert in kitty communication. Trust me. If you’re looking to adopt a kitty or are still confused as to what your cat is trying to tell you, this article will help. But first, a little background...

I always thought of myself as a dog person. I've had dogs my entire adult life.  I love all other animals, but I cannot live without dogs. Well, I thought I couldn't until Sydney came into my life.

On a cold December day in 2006, I went down the wrong aisle at Petsmart and ran into the section where adoptable cats from the Pikes Peak Humane Society were on display. I usually purposely avoided any events where rescues were available for adoption as I want to rescue everyone. Syd reached through the cage and pawed at me. It was love at first sight. I immediately called my landlords and asked if I could add a third pet to my lease. Being animal lovers, my landlords kindly said yes, and we had an early Christmas that year when I brought her home.

Sydney, 2019, and her food bowl.  Photography by Jessica Sullivan

📷 courtesy of Jessica Sullivan

That's Sydney.


Of course, like any good pawrent, I got all the necessary supplies. Litter box and litter. Check. Cat food. Check. Toys and catnip. Check. I already had pet food bowls and pet carriers. I made her a vet appointment for a full checkup. And then I realized I had no idea what she was trying to tell me. I am fluent in "dog," but not in "cat." Yeah, definitely not fluent in kitty communication.

So why is it easier to understand what your dog is trying to tell you? Why isn't kitty communication as simple? Studies have put the dog’s domestication at anywhere from 18,000 to 30,000 years ago. The crossover from feral to domestication is thought to have occurred when dogs diverged from their wolf ancestors and gradually began hanging around humans ... a ready source of meat scraps. See, dogs trained us to give them treats right from the start!

For cats, domestication happened much more recently at around 9,000 to 4,000 years ago, either in Cyprus or when cats were depicted with their Egyptian masters in wall paintings. This explains why humans have a hard time understanding domesticated cats; we just haven’t had as much time interacting with them as domestic dogs.

grey kitten on chalkboard with letters "ABC"

Additionally, many people think cats aren’t very expressive and are impossible to gauge. A cat’s tail expresses precisely what he or she’s thinking and how he or she’s feeling. You just have to “listen” to cat tail language.

Learning cat tail language is like learning any foreign language; it takes time. If you are new to feline tail signs, you can be confused by what various tail movements and positions show and inadvertently upset your cat. In addition to helping you learn “cat,” we’re also giving you suggestions on how your cat expects you to respond.

Kitty Communication Tail Positions


  • Translation: Confident, happy.
  • How the hooman should react: Offer playtime, cuddles, and treats.
Cat with upright tail


  • Translation: Friendly.
  • How the hooman should react: Offer your hand for sniffing and petting.
A cat tail curled at the top. Photography by Pexels.


  • Translation: Agitated, feeling aggressive.
  • How the hooman should react: Don’t try to engage or pet her. Try to neutralize whatever is upsetting her.
A cat with his tail down. Photography by Creative Commons.


  • Translation: Nervous and/or submissive.
  • How the hooman should react: Act nonchalant. Wait for him to come to you.
A cat with a curved tail. Photography by Pexels


  • Translation: Scared, agitated, angry.
  • How the hooman should react: Leave her alone!
A cat with a puffed tail and body. Photography by Pexels.


  • Translation: Fearful; angry, aggressive.
  • How the hooman should react: Best not try for quality snuggle time with an angry cat.
A cat with a whipping tail.  Photography by Cat Breeds Encyclopedia


  • Translation: Focused.
  • How the hooman should react: Let your captivated cat follow his interests.
A cat with a swaying tail. Photography by Pexels.

Tail Tips

You have to take the whole body into account when reading tail signals, says Carlo Siracusa, of the University of Pennsylvania School of Veterinary Medicine.  The napping cat with the tapping tail, for example, is “relaxed overall but paying attention to something happening around him, a sound or movement,” so he’s peaceful but hardly asleep on the job. If he or she really is sleeping, Siracusa adds, a moving tail could mean he or she’s dreaming.

While learning kitty communication via cat tail language is necessary for cat owners, petting the cat around the base of the tail or the tail itself is unappreciated by most cats. Syddie does love a good scratch there, but like I said, she’s not normal! Cats prefer all petting and scratching occur around the chin and ears.

Further, if during a petting session your cat's tail starts twitching or lashing, his or her ears are turning back, or he or she's leaning away from you, these all are signals that your companion is done interacting.

Finally, for quick reference, we've listed a table guide below on cat tail language a.k.a. the Cat Tail “CliffsNotes” Version. Happy conversing with your feline friends!

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